Howdy

I know I'm a horrible blogger because I haven't updated the blog in such a long time but a lot has happened since I last wrote an entry.

When I first started to blog it was a way to tell my story as a active fraternity brother in the closet still sort of unsure about his sexuality. Two years later I'm a very different person and I will write a little more about the transition and probably end the blog and I'll explain why later.

How are things with the frat?

I've kept in touch with only a few fraternity brothers and I haven't attended a frat recruitment event or alumni meeting in about a year. The reasons being that I've just been pretty busy and I don't live in Dallas so it is very inconvenient to attend some of the events.  I did come out to one of my pledge brothers and it wasn't a big deal.

He came into town for business and I told him he could crash at my place and he did. He saw that there were two toothbrushes by the sink and asked if I was dating. I told him that I was actually dating a guy who is a grad student. He sort of looked at me surprised that I told him this nonchalantly. We went out and Tony (my boyfriend) met us up after class turned out to be really awesome.

It is sort of puzzling to me that I didn't tell my pledge brother sooner because it seemed so easy to tell him but I really believe that you first have to get to know your own sexuality and be comfortable with it before telling someone.  

I've received a few e-mails during this unintended hiatus from frat guys who are still in the closet asking for some advice. The best advice is to figure out who you are (as corny as that might sound) but really learn about your sexuality. Are you gay, bi, confused? It can be a strange process asking these questions especially if you don't want to admit it like I was for a while. I would say that I was just checking things out because I didn't want to admit that I was just attracted to guys. Either way coming out can be a lengthy process but with each step it has gotten easier for me and i'll promise to write more about what has changed.

I will also try to e-mail yall back.

P.S. If there is a closet frat boy who is thinking of starting a blog and would like the blog title let me know.

What are you doing now?

First my apologies for not updating sooner but I have a great excuse.

So I did not move and have stayed in Austin, Texas to work a legislative session. That is the good news, the bad news is that...

The Texas Legislature can only work on legislation for 140 days every two years. So that means that in those 140 days we work like crazy. Just the other day I stayed at the office until 3am went home showered, changed, and came back to the office at 6am. It's rough but its fun and exciting.

Needless to say I have had no time for the blog and I'm sorry for that I do have some juicy updates that I need to write about but haven't been able to. I promise to try to update a little more.

Oh yeah and I have a new political crush... Representative Aaron Schock (R-Illinois). Check him out:

Overdue update

I'm in the process of moving and changing jobs so during this transition time I won't be blogging too much.

I hope everyone is doing well and I'll try to catch yall up as soon as I can catch up with everything going on with me.

TV Crush 3

Damn this dude is hot and he is 37. He plays Don Draper on AMC's Mad Men and now plays Liz Lemon's love interest on 30 Rock. Enjoy his pictures because I definitely do.

Teamwork

Someone know how I can join a league like this?

Karma

I'm a big believer in the concept of karma and I always over analyze my actions when going through some bad times. Last Tuesday I went to a dinner for work and when I was leaving I saw that someone busted a window in my truck and stole some CDs and a shopping bag of shirts. The most annoying part is paying $200 for a broken window. I was going to buy a ticket for SXSW but now I can't.

Trying to change my luck.

I do....

Saturday I went to one of my frat brother Matt's wedding and it was great to see some old friends and be there for my bro and his family. I've known Matt since our first semester in college because we played in the same flag football intramural team and we joined the frat the same semester. We kind of lost touch after we graduated but I saw he and his fiancee (now wife) out at a sports bar when I went back home and reconnected. Anyways I got invited and I went and had a great time. I didn't take a date which I didn't worry too much about because I knew I would see people I knew.

The wedding was beautiful and I usually don't say that. I had not been to church in a very long time and really missed going. I started thinking the argument of a gay wedding diminishing the value of straight wedding. I love to see people who love each other together and why judge people on who they choose to spend the rest of their life. I know I'm speaking to the choir on this but being a Republican I was against Prop 8 in California (even though I don't live there) but that wasn't just a Dem. vs. Rep.

I felt jealous at the opportunity that Matt is able to marry the love of his life and enjoy it with all his family and friends. Unless I decide to start dating girls again, I don't see myself getting marrying to a woman.

Off my soapbox. The wedding was a blast and I got a possible job opportunity from speaking to my bro's dad but I'll write about that later.